Taking the time to write out 32 for 32.
1. You’ve fallen in love with taking care of yourself this year, and it’s changed everything. You will, of course, forget that you ever learnt these lessons and ultimately you’ll gain a few pounds, or won’t work out, or skip eight hours a night, because you couldn’t not. That’s okay. Forgive yourself imperfection and then get back on the bandwagon. That’s what matters, love. NBD.
2. The bad and good rush in together.
3. Boys – men – happen.
4. It’s about respect! The jig is up: you can’t wait for people to treat you how you deserve to be treated. You have to either demonstrate your expectations, or scarier still: verbalize them.
5. Just sleep it off. Most things become clearer in the morning.
6. SPOILER ALERT: It seldom looks how you thought it might. Repeat this to yourself until the end of all time.
7. It’s all in your imagination that you don’t have enemies.
8. Drink water. Everyday.
9. Even if it kills you and even if you feel like you have to text or call after a few drinks. Don’t!! Under no circumstances can you talk to him ever again.
10. When somebody does something that touches you – stranger or friend – say so. Don’t take the kindness of others for granted, and be original with your praise. Everybody deserves that much.
11. You have made the home that you love. Don’t get pissy when things get out of place on a daily basis. The pots will get washed, and you’ll fall back to sleep. Keep your perspective.
12. Not working out feels worse than actually lacing up your sneakers and just going to the gym. Always.
13. Your biggest responsibility is to one person: your son. Prioritize accordingly.
14. The social web, refer to number 6 ALWAYS
15. …but that isn’t what I wanted. You will experience that more often than not. Sort that out, yeah?
16. You need about 67% more
17. Life is short. And life is odd. But hell if it isn’t lovely.
18. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE BROKEN TO BE INTERESTING.
19. Related: when somebody calls you inspiring/beautiful/talented, you can totally just say, “Oh! Thanks!” #noexcuses
20. Declare your intentions. Do it to yourself, and then do it to the people who matter to you.
21. If anyone speaks in black and white, and you talk rainbow. That doesn’t mean you’re off the hook on this one. They’ll push you to be clearer, to simplify and say precisely what you mean, and you should let them. You might learn something.
22. You get mean when you drink gin. Make the connection already.
23. Start your days with what you love, and see how it transforms your relationship with “having enough time.”
24. Saying yes to others more often than you say no could mean that you end up saying yes to a lot of new opportunities with greater ease. You’ve seen glimpses of this already..
25. Every-time you cut out sugar you eventually introduce it again. Just learn to regulate portions and stick with that.
26. You have parents, but you also have a mother, and a father. Keep those relationships separate. When you realized this is was like lightening striking your brain. Even if your dad is gone. Keep it separate from your relationship with your mom.
27. Trust yourself. Especially these past few months you’ve tried so hard to let things unfold naturally, without too much pushing, and it has served you well. You only need ask the question once – if you keep talking, you won’t hear the answer. Ease off the gas.
28. Just show up. Above all, day after day, know that for all things it begins with just showing up. Do that, if you are ever in doubt. Sit at the computer, pull out your running shorts, pick up the phone. It starts with action. Show up.
29. Do not put it on that credit card. Under any circumstance. Put it back and make do with what you have.
30. Some people have their high school crew. Others their university pack. Sometimes it’s a sports club or toddler group, a happy coincidence or deliberate choice, but it’s always a shared experience. And its always OK to have more than one.
31. Nap on Sundays every chance you get.
32. Resole your shoes. Be willing to get things dry-cleaned. Find a good tailor.